After separation, breakup, or divorce, is completed, the idea of you getting between the sheets with someone new and unfamiliar can trigger many of your fears and insecurities. The first sex, after having been intimate only with your long-term partner, can produce both skin-crawling anxiety and exhilarating excitement, sometimes at the same time.
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Your marriage seems to have turned into a disaster. The relationship isn’t working, you are arguing all the time. And it seems that there is nothing else you can do to fix your family and still be together as a couple. So now you are thinking about getting a divorce. It could solve the problem and finally give you a happier life.
Your marriage went wrong and now you and your almost ex-spouse is seriously talking about divorce. You are trying to figure out all the details to make the process as smooth as possible. And one of the most challenging moments is to have “the big talk” with your children about it.
In a perfect world, you would wake up each day to a completely clean house, fresh laundry and zeros errands. Now wouldn’t that be great? The problem is, we unfortunately do not live in a perfect world. We live in the real world, where there are dishes to do, laundry to wash and fold, doctor appointments to be made and a myriad of other chores that need completing on any given day.
Late-life divorce is the world’s increasingly popular trend, and in the U.S. in particular, according to scholars Bowen and Jensen. It’s also called “gray divorce” when partners separate after reaching 50 years old.
The pervasiveness of the “missing half” myth can do a great disservice. Believing that being someone’s other half is something perpetual and unchanging, people break up with the understanding that either they have lost their half forever or the spouse was never “the one”.
When we imagine a successful person, we think about someone with a great career, lots of hobbies, and a happy family. But we often see divorce as a failure. What if it can be a success, too? Look at it from a different perspective: you and your already-almost-ex are two mature people who can admit that no matter how hard they tried they can’t be together. You are strong enough to see it, to accept it and to fix it. Sounds far from a failure, doesn’t it?
If you are asking yourself this question, you have probably passed through stages of post-divorce depression and self-doubts. Thus, you might be ready to enter a quiet harbor of a stable relationship rather than plunge into a whirling world of unpredictable dating romance.
You and your partner are no longer close to each other. You don’t feel that there’s any love, understanding or quality communication between you. You think that your marriage is a disaster and it will inevitably come to a divorce. It seems like there is nothing you can do to save it. Is it really this dramatic? Or are there ways to save the marriage and make it even better than it was before the crisis? In this article, we are going to look at things that can make families get better, even after they’ve come to the edge of break-up.
Divorce is one of the most stressful events a person can have in their life. In fact, it’s the second most stressful thing on the Social Readjustment Rating Scale (SRRS), more commonly known as the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, topped only by the death of a loved one. So it’s no wonder that now, going through separation and divorce, you feel absolutely devastated and lonely.
It would be a mistake to think that the family as a concept is limited to a narrow interpretation. When you think of your new family, made up of you and your child, do not confine yourself to the norm where it is obligatory to raise a child together with their other biological parent. Human life is unpredictable, and any configuration can lead to positive results.